I have recently gotten into a program called Leverage (have to love a holiday break). It is an entertaining storyline with character development and something that whilst it would be deemed common sense may not be so common – the every day con; with con being short for confidence.
There are hundreds upon hundreds of scams that are run and each of us at some point have fallen victim, or the colloquial term is “gotten sucked in”. What is worse is that most of the time we know it is a scam however, it is feeding some part of our ego so we go along with it anyway.
The problem with this strategy is that it becomes habit and it allow ourselves to close our eyes to scams and we find ourselves paying our hard earned money for things that are never what they say they are and then reprimand ourselves afterwards. Sounds familiar?
We all want to confident and we all want to be successful so we see someone that is charismatic and knows what to say when and automatically (aside being drawn to this person) we believe what they say. We don’t do our homework. We don’t even stop to consider that perhaps we should. We take it at face value because we are honest so why wouldn’t they be? Then the one that gets so many is that they know what to say to you that hits you on an emotional level and you are sold.
However, do not let confidence, or the impression of confidence blind your own common sense of complete and utter rubbish. You are the one that suffers, you are the one that ends up paying the bill, often in more ways than one and for what – to feel better? There is only one person that can provide you with confidence and make you feel better and that one person is and always will be you.
Take it from someone that had a rotten childhood, no self esteem, suffered a nervous breakdown – it is up to you. Today this poor sap of a person doesn’t exist, only the happy, naturally confident woman that knows what she wants and doesn’t take rubbish to get it. So why should you?
Don’t you deserve to have the best? Don’t you deserve to be happy and successful in a way that works for you?
Then the answer is simple – do your homework on anything that is going to have an impact on you. Ask the questions – basis of knowledge, qualifications, relevant experience and why you should believe them, not the sales pitch but them as the person that is selling. Then when you are happy with what they have provided go for it and enjoy the fruits of your labour knowing that it is going to remain yours.
Remember to not mistake confidence for BS because you are the one that will end up with a truck load full of BS and not much else.
